Kindred Spirit Magazine - March/April 08
Psychic Life Coaching
At 44, Nicolya Christi has packed a lot in to her working life. She
has been a medium, clairvoyant and channel for nearly 25 years but,
for the past 12 years, she has also trained and worked as a counselor
and psychotherapist having completed a three-year course in Psycho-Synthesis
psychotherapy and studied Core Process psychotherapy.
In recent years, she has developed a new way of working that combines
her wealth of experience from the two different disciplines of clairvoyance
and psychotherapy to bring the best of both fields to her work as a
psychic life coach.
The cynics among you might well ask how she has avoided using her
gifts as a medium to help in her psychotherapy practice until now but
this is a question of ethics. When training, her tutors made it abundantly
clear that use of her psychic abilities when counseling was strictly
forbidden and Nicolya felt obliged to honour this professional ruling.
In fact, there were many occasions during psychotherapy sessions when
guides or a client’s loved ones came through and Nicolya felt
that sharing their words would have helped the client but she reluctantly
stayed quiet. However, she eventually realized that she could not ignore
her spiritual guides during counseling sessions any longer and so she
turned her back on conventional psychotherapy and instead developed
her own unique therapy system called Psychic Life Coaching and Psychic
Counselling Target Therapy. While in its infancy, she perfected the
technique over a number of months using volunteers. Her guinea pigs
were amazed at how powerful and effective the new coaching was and
how quickly it got to the root of their problems. So, in 2007, Nicolya
began to offer her Psychic Life Coaching services to the public at
large and she now has clients drawn from all over the world.
Nicolya
believes that the added dimension of channeled energies that
are present at each counseling session helps her to offer more
meaningful guidance that can, in turn, lead clients to discover
their own truth and answers. She says, “It’s a fine balance between giving
answers, which is what clairvoyance does, and respecting and working
with the principles of psychotherapy, which helps people to find the
answers for themselves. It’s a very fine line but helping a person
to find answers is empowering for them. “Often there are messages
that can be passed through to the client that could never be given
in a conventional psychotherapy session, but that’s not the basis
of the session – the basis is psychotherapy.”
She
is at great pain to explain how she incorporates her psychic
gifts into the counseling with integrity: “I never offer
predictions in my work. That side of my clairvoyance is left
outside the door. I have chosen, in response to a call from my
guides, to use my psychic gifts very differently and for very
different purposes, shifting the focus of the psychic energy
from my solar plexus chakra (predictive work) to the brow chakra
(visionary work).”
Clients
seek Nicolya’s unique style of psychic counseling for
a vast array of different problems ranging from struggling with an
awakening or challenging time or a personal crisis to the more parochial
relationship and work problems that trouble us all – or sometimes
people call without really knowing themselves why they are consulting
her. This is where Nicolya’s psychic gifts come in to their own
because her guides usually tell her the main reason why a client has
contacted her. She confirms, “Someone might ring and they don’t
know why they called. They just know that they want to be helped to
move on but I know why they’ve come and it’s the guides
who often help. Obviously I don’t need to say anything to the
client. I work with the knowledge but I let them discover it for themselves.
I might make suggestions to them but I trust that it’s just a
matter of time before it’s made clear to them and the light bulb
goes on.”
Whether the issue that presents itself during a counselling session
is expressed by the client or channelled through Nicolya, it is her
psychotherapy experience that Nicolya calls upon to help clients to
heal wounds, to face their issues and to deal with them. She emphasizes
that one of the things that makes her Psychic Life Counseling so powerful
is the fact that nothing needs to be left unspoken and that nothing
can shock her or the guides who work through her. She says, “What’s
important is the basis of trust. It’s a space where you can speak
the unspeakable.” Within this space of trust, not only is she
able to help people to speak about the things that shame or frighten
them, but also to speak about their essence, which she then goes on
to assist clients in 'discovering and naming what that is for you and
how you can manifest that in your life.’ She calls this process ‘aligning
the personality to the soul’ saying, “Most people have
aligned the soul with the personality, so the personality is in the
driving seat and depending on who you are or ones level of consciousness,
the ‘soul’ can be anywhere from the passenger seat to being
in the boot, on the roof rack or dragging behind in a trailer!” Although
many of Nicolya’s clients have experience of self-development
work, there are also many who are not interested in mind, body and
spirit matters and she is keen to stress that her work can help anybody
irrespective of their level of consciousness. “I keep everything
as simple as possible,” she says. “It’s excellent
for anyone and nobody has to feel that they should be at a certain
level of development to benefit. I try to target my work so that people
can resonate or connect with what I’m saying or doing.”
One
of Nicolya’s claims for her therapy that is likely to ruffle
feathers in the psychotherapy community is the speed at which clients
can expect to see results. Psychic Life Coaching and Psychic Counselling
can either be experienced as a short-term ‘target’ therapy
lasting six weeks or as a One-Off ‘target’ session lasting
50 minutes. Obviously, when focusing on specific issues, the work can
roll in six-weekly ongoing sessions but Nicolya is happy to state, “The
results of years of therapy can be achieved in a matter of weeks or
months” using her approach.
Another break with convention is the fact that all sessions are conducted
over the phone. Although this came about by default (Nicolya had been
extremely ill when the therapy was being developed and, at the time,
did not have the strength to see clients face to face so she started
working with them by phone), she has continued to work in this way
as she and her clients find it more effective. She acknowledges that
people are reluctant to work by phone initially but says she has yet
to find a client who is not convinced by the end of the sessions. She
explains why: “My work is soul to soul. By connecting to someone’s
essence on the phone, it’s so much more helpful. I have never
had a client yet who has stopped or it hasn’t worked for them.
That’s not a guarantee but it is an experience.” However,
this softly spoken 44-year-old who spends most of her time in Glastonbury
but also lives in Cornwall, is wise enough to acknowledge and take
responsibility for the processes that the work she is offering can
trigger. So is this a problem when clients may be calling from the
four corners of the globe? Nicolya points out that, unlike other therapies
where people have to wait until their next appointment for help, her
clients can contact her at any time by email. She says, “I feel
for the work that I offer, it is important that the space in between
is held and when needed, people have the reassurance that I am there
if life gets too bumpy between sessions. Having said that, it is surprising
how little this is taken up. It’s as if by knowing it is there
if needed, that in itself helps a client to feel stronger and more
able to hold the space for themselves.”
Nicolya’s quest is to help as many people as she can in a safe
and grounded way. In that name, she has developed a therapy that eliminates
geographical boundaries and time differences and she (and her client
testimonials’) believe that this is a 21st Century therapy that
can heal deep wounds in weeks. And there is good reason for her sense
of urgency. She says, “Time is speeding up and we are literally
hurtling toward the dramatic shift of planetary and human consciousness
in 2011-2012. It makes sense that certain healing methods are going
to emerge that are specifically aimed at speeding up personal healing
processes as we prepare for the coming 2012 gateway.”
Psychic Life Coaching and Psychic Counselling Target Therapy is certainly
an innovative approach in which Nicolya places equal importance on
the twin elements of the psychic and the psychological aspects of the
work. Yet, it seems that when used in combination, the sum is greater
than the parts and that Nicolya Christi has pioneered a powerful and
unique therapy.
